Some Random Chakra Shit to Share

Hey all, I hope this blog finds you well and moving smoothly through these intense energies.  I had a great few days and felt I was rolling through Lion’s Gate (which ends today) then, the Ascension Flu (yes, there is such a thing).  Body aches, hot/cold, nausea, you know the drill…only this is not viral related…it is triggered by ascension so the body can purge to be able to hold high vibrational energy on the daily.  It’s fucking crazy, but true…I am merging my high vibrational light into this 3D reality…and I know I”m going through it now to guide others when they’re time comes.  Whether anyone likes it, or not, it’s coming…the mass raising of human consciousness.  Learning the chakra system, mediating, getting tarot readings, reiki, using crystals, grounding…all this shit I write about will become, for most, daily spiritual practices.  They will become essential to functioning in a 4D reality.

So, there are a few last random things I’d like to share about the chakras.  Chakra work doesn’t just have to happen when meditating, it aligns in yoga, food you eat, clothes you wear, using crystals/stones that align can work amazing magic.  I am not all about recreating the damn wheel, so I’ll attach a shit ton of links and post info on the FB page (Oh My Goddess) and am planning on sharing my practices and tools I use to show my self love and stay aligned with the Divine.  Anyways, the colors of the chakras are the key to figuring out what to eat, clothing and crystals.  You can use colored candles, incense, aromatherapy, essential oils…I think you get the idea.

My daily yoga flow covers all of the chakras and it is fucking powerful shit, you guys.  I have had days when certain poses open the chakra and I am overcome with releasing.  I have a blog planned, dedicated solely to my experiences, love of yoga.  Of course I do, I have a fucking ton of blogs to put out, lol.  Anyways, yoga is all about aligning mind, body and spirit, it is as much a spiritual practice, as a form of exercise.  You can use yoga poses to work on physical symptoms associated with each chakra, as well as, internal releasing.  I can think of one time specifically that I was in a child pose and out of nowhere I was sobbing, so fucking hard, aching, heart breaking heavy sobs…I had no idea where it came from, still don’t, but it clearly need to be released and I let it.  Child Pose is associated with the throat chakra, knowing this leads me to believe it was something abut not speaking my truth, this was a few months ago and I was still feeling pretty confused about my new path.  Lately, it’s been my lower chakras.

In November 2016, I fell and fucked my ankle up…bad, the surgeon said it would have been better if I broke it.  It was at the end of my Dark Night of the Soul (another day, lol), part of spiritual awakening, and I now know it was the physical manifestation of being completely broken on the inside.  I was spiritually, mentally, financially,emotionally and now physically broke as fuck.  After months of pills, rescheduled appointments and giving up on physical therapy, I gave up on healing my ankle, did the best I could (totally overcompensating on the other ankle, of course) and began focusing on healing my shit on the inside.  June 2017, I began my daily mediation practice and within days felt guided to start yoga.  Long story short for now, chakras are the focus here…starting yoga began my journey of healing my physical body.  Lately, many aches are from this old ass injury and I am totally realigning my physical body. A client of mine is a yoga instructor and she gave me the best tip:  breathe breath into outer ankle to inner ankle, on the exhale imagine all four corners of your foot stable on the ground…holy shit, the amount of healing changing how I balance my weight through my ankles & feet has been off the charts, but not going to lie…fucking painful, my physical body is deep in discomfort.  Although , it kinda feels good, knowing it’s bringing something better…an aligned, bad ass body for this soon to be 43 year old is worth some pain and discomfort. All of this happens to align to my root and sacral chakra…poses I do for this are Mountain Pose (root, also great for grounding) and the painfully exquisite Pigeon Pose (sacral, also great for hip opening).  I’ve cried releasing in the Pigeon Pose, as well…I’m a crier, y’all…good, bad, it doesn’t fucking matter…I’m a heart on my sleeve goddess and I embrace it.

A few last random thoughts on the chakras:  I may have not mentioned the most commonly blocked chakras for men are the upper chakras (throat, 3rd eye and Crown), opposite in feminines (big fucking shocker there).

Pangs, pains, aches and twitches in your physical body are usually your chakras communicating with you.  The area will align to the chakra…headaches, 3rd Eye and/or Crown…most people just ignore these subtle ways our spirit and body communicate with our mind.  Sadly, programming has left most completely unaware of this.  Hopefully, we will begin teaching chakras in schools, as they should be taught at a young age…they would be if I had my own school.

I think that’s about all I got in me for the chakra series.  I hope it’s been informational and helpful.  Please reach out if you have any questions, or need guidance.  Not sure what’s coming  next, but that pretty much sums up my whole fucking life.  Have an amazing day, loves!

Peace Love & Light to You All

AK

P.S.  I’ll check in with my chakra test results next week.

 

 

Want Better Relationships? Start With Yourself!

SelfI know. It sounds counterintuitive, doesn’t it? Don’t we all have that friend or family member (or maybe it’s you) who is always there, giving selflessly of her time and talents? I mean, everyone loves that woman, so don’t you want to be that woman, or just like her? Don’t you imagine that she has a ton of friends who love her right back and will drop everything to help her right back if necessary?  (I suppose this person could be a man, but yeah, not so often.) Often times, though, this friend is drained and not feeling great about her friends not reciprocating. She might just think that’s how things work, that friends just take advantage, and you either deal with it or have no friends. Does she think she doesn’t deserve friends who love her right back? Damn, I hope not.

Rlationships function best when there’s give and take. In most relationships I’ve witnessed, there’s an imbalance there. There’s generally one person who is the giver; the caretaker; the one who has it all handled. If the balance is pretty close, and both partners give almost as much as they take, the relationship is usually a good one. For example, if you like cleaning and your husband loves cooking, you care for one another that way. There’s nothing wrong with that. However, if you cook, clean, organize, work full time, do the majority of the child care tasks, and your partner works, comes home, throws his socks on the coffee table, and falls asleep with the remote in his hand, I hate to say it, you have an imbalance, and you shouldn’t take it.

I recently heard a quote that made more sense to me than just about anything I’ve ever heard or read. Ready? “You date at the level of your self esteem.” It’s so simple, but I look back at my life and see that it’s completely accurate. When I met my first husband, my self esteem was at an all time low. I was 20, and I realized that I had absolutely no idea what I wanted to do with my life. I was drinking WAY too much and that’s not good for anyone, but it was the only thing that didn’t make me feel empty. It gave me the social courage to meet new people. The problem is, when you make friends and the bond you share is binge drinking, those are not healthy relationships. I’d gotten out of a serious relationship with someone I thought was going to be “the one” about a year and a half prior to meeting my ex husband, and I dated some real losers in the meantime. Unfortunately, these losers and users seem to have a sixth sense for women who are down on themselves. They can somehow sense that you don’t think you deserve much. When your self esteem is at its lowest, you’re a magnet for the biggest turds on the market. My ex started out charming and kind, and slowly turned into a jealous ass who slowly isolated me from my friends. These men find ways to get you away from people who know and love you and have your best interest at heart. He has reasons, and while you’re being gaslit, his reasons *kind of* make sense. One friend smoked a lot of weed, and I was really, really not into that, so she wasn’t “good for me.” Another drank a lot and slept around, so I shouldn’t be around that, should I? Plus, he had a good group of friends. They were almost all really good people who had absolutely no idea what kind of an emotionally abusive ass he was in private. Still, I really couldn’t sack up and convince myself that I really, truly, deserved better than that.

Of course, looking back, would I change anything? I mean, he’s my son’s father. I’d never trade my kid for anything. Still, if everything happens for a reason, usually the reason is that you make bad decisions. I think if I’d had more self esteem, more belief that I had power, I could have changed that relationship for the better. It ultimately wouldn’t have worked out, but it might not have been the lonely, isolated, living hell it was, especially at the end. I’m actually glad it got so bad, because that lead to me GETTING OUT.

Look at your beautiful, talented, hilarious friend. She’s this strong, amazing woman and she’s dating one of these toxic turds. Why? She may not really grasp it, but she probably thinks Todd the Terrible Turd is the best she can do and she’s lucky to have him. She’s not dumb. She knows he’s not a very good dude, but when a woman has a low self esteem, sometimes being with Larry Loser seems better than being alone. She equates being alone with being lonely. I can tell you from experience that when you feel like shit about yourself, the last thing you want is time alone to think about it, so you stay with Alexander the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Dude and make excuses for him.

STOP THAT SHIT RIGHT NOW.

So wait, what am I saying here? If your husband is a lazy ass that fully takes advantage of you, should you just up and leave him, or kick his ass out? Probably not. If he’s a good man and he’s not an emotional, financial or physical abuser and your relationship is pretty good, besides your constant resentment brewing, take charge.

Find what makes YOU happy. Find what makes YOU feel good. I see a lot of this when I’m working on my fitness coaching business. I talk to women who are super disappointed with the their weight and their lack of energy. They want to be healthier, look better, and be able to chase after and play with their young children. Do you know the reason I hear most often? These are women who are sometimes in tears when they decide not to join my 30 day challenge groups. They want to do it really badly, but they say they DON’T. HAVE.TIME.

OK, single working mamas to little ones. I was one of you, and I KNOW that sometimes your days are packed from dawn til dusk and beyond and you’re probably not getting much sleep. I get that. If there’s a way that you can trade childcare even 1-3 times a week with another single or married parent, or if you have a friend who would be happy to spend a little time in kid-land, take that time. Fill your cup.

The majority of these women, though, are married to the fathers of their children. They tell me that they have no idea when they’d find 30 minutes, 4-6 times a week, to work out and work towards their goal. Even with all they’ve told me about their fitness goals, they don’t think that they can leave the kids with the husband for 30 minutes to work out in a different room of her home. I just wonder. Does Mr You have time to tinker on an old car that hasn’t run for 9 years? Does he golf or bowl or play hoops with his buddies? Does he run? Does he sit in a chair and watch TV for three hours a night?

Now think about this. Do you deserve 30 minutes to yourself, to work on yourself? Even if you’re not using it to work out, do you need that time to center yourself? To meditate? To go have a drink with your girlfriends?

Here’s another thing. If you see yourself in what I’m writing, and you can hear that man snoring on the couch while you read this a few paragraphs at a time in between loads of laundry and dishes, I have a hard truth for you. This man, this sleeping man who lives in your house, probably has NO FUCKING IDEA that you feel this way. I mean, he’s aware that you’re pissed that your jeans don’t fit, but he really, truly, doesn’t know how you’re feeling and what you need unless you TELL HIM. Turn off the distractions. Ask to talk to him for a minute when the kids are in bed or elsewhere. If you do all of the cleaning and all of the cooking and all of the other bullshit on autopilot, all but the very best of men who are vying for sainthood will LET YOU. You bet your ass they’re going to keep that status quo. After all, it works for him. If he’s a good man, he wants to know. He wants a happy wife, but homeboy has no freaking clue how to make that happen.

Decide. It’s up to you. Decide that you’re worth it. Decide that your kids don’t need Pinterest lives every day. Your Elf on a Shelf doesn’t need an elaborate set up every day. If that brings you joy, then great. But if these things are draining you, take back your power! Tell that man that you’re feeling tired and down, and that you need time for YOURSELF every day. For some reason, over the course of your life, you’ve decided that you don’t deserve it. You don’t deserve self care? I think you do. I think we all do. For me, that means I MUST have time home alone, just me and the dogs, for several hours at least twice a week. I need to move my body. The JOY that pumps through my bloodstream with that release of endorphins can’t be replaced by organizing someone else’s underwear drawer or vacuuming under the feet of a grown ass man. The clarity of mind I have when I’m eating clean, healthy foods 90% of the time can’t be replaced by hate-eating leftover macaroni and cheese and chicken nuggets my kid didn’t finish.

So this is my purpose; my manifesto.

I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.

I DESERVE TO TAKE TIME FOR MYSELF.

I DESERVE A PARTNER WHO GIVES AS MUCH AS HE TAKES.

I DESERVE TO FEEL AMAZING.

I DESERVE TO FEEL STRONG.

I DESERVE TO BE HEALTHY.

I DESERVE SELF CARE.

I LOVE MYSELF.

I DESERVE JOY.

I DESERVE STRONG, CARING FRIENDSHIPS.

I DESERVE ABUNDANCE.

I DESERVE TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF SO I CAN TAKE CARE OF MY FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND CLIENTS AT THE HIGHEST POSSIBLE LEVEL.

CALL ME SELFISH. I’LL WEAR THAT BADGE WITH PRIDE.

And guess what? YOU DESERVE ALL OF THAT TOO. Not when your kids are grown. Not when your career is established. Not at some arbitrary point in the future. There will always be demands on your time, on your energy, on your body. There’s never a magical time when your world stops and you can do all the things you always wanted to do. Do it now. Take back your self esteem and power and realize YOU DESERVE THIS.

I can’t decide what that thing is for you that builds you up, recharges your battery, and makes you feel amazing about yourself and your life, but whatever it is, don’t delay. When you’re a happier human, you’re a happier mom, a joyful wife, a  caring friend, an energetic employer or  employee.

Love, power, and light,

-Selfish Mitch