Straighten Your Crown…You Are Divine

We all wear a crown, most of us aren’t aware of it.  Programming has us believing that God is something separate from us.  This distorted God of organized religion has us all fucked up, unable to see that we are all God, the embodiment of unconditional love and light in human form.  The Crown chakra is located at the top of the head, this purple chakra influences our spirituality, our connection to higher consciousness, inspiration and wisdom.  When blocked, we experience loneliness, depression, mental disorders, confusion, lack of purpose and/or sleep problems.  I have definitely experienced a blocked crown throughout my life and definitely through my spiritual awakening.

As a child, loneliness was common…I never felt like I fit in anywhere, not even with my family.  As I’ve gone through my awakening, I’ve come to realize that this is quite common with lightworkers (Twin Flames, Starseeds, Empaths, Earth Angels, etc.).  The times I felt the least alone were actually the times I was alone…weird, I know, but true. When alone, I could read,  listen to music, daydream and connect to my spirit guide and angels.  In this place, I was never alone…in crowds, or around people, was the opposite.  Still is…as an Introvert, I love my quiet, alone time…it is essential for me.  It is essential for all of us.  The loneliness of a spiritual awakening is for a purpose, to learn that you are never alone when connected to the Divine.

As of late, I have been a little cloudy on why I’ve gone through this awakening, what is my purpose now.  I knew at an early age I wanted to be a teacher and leaving teaching was one of the most confusing decisions.  I was guided to do so and felt at peace with the decision, but what the fuck was I going to do next?  I started this blog, guided to share my experience with you all, but wondered what else?  I know, and have always known, that I was destined for something big, but I had no clue what that big was…still a little unsure, but the unfolding of the path has been absolutely magical.  The massive shifts happening to all, have for me, brought more clarity to who I am at a soul level and why I am here.   I’ll blog on this very soon and possibly do a video on our YouTube channel.  Since the blog, I have started 2 YouTube channels with the hope, like the blog, of planting seeds of awareness and helping others through shifts in consciousness that we all are experiencing.  I have also started my own Tarot business with the intention of guiding other’s through their journey of self-transformation.  It’s busy, but I love it and time means nothing when I’m helping others with love and passion.

How do we open the Crown chakra and our connection to the Divine?  MEDITATE, MEDITATE, MEDITATE…I cannot say it enough.  If there is one practice we all should do and teach our children it’s MEDITATE.  As I’ve said before, you are the only one who knows you best.  But, what you do you know?  The ego/3D you or the Divine/5D you?  Meditation is the best way to learn and know yourself at a soul level and I will blog on this soon, as well.    Meditating as little as 10 minutes a day can change your whole perspective on self and others, as well as it’s millions of other benefits.  Prayer is another way to connect, but not the fucked up praying of organized religion.  My mother to this day, tells me I need to get on my knees and pray…ummmm, hello, this is the girl that literally communicates with angels, pretty sure I’ve got my own way of praying.  That’s the thing about spirituality, meditation, prayer…there is no one way of, or right way,  doing it.  It’s all about YOU and what works best for YOU.  I meditate a lot more than 10 minutes a day, operating from a higher consciousness, I sometimes feel I am in a meditative state most of the time.  That’s just me, though…Selfish Mitch was very resistant to meditation until recently and I hope she’ll blog (hint, hint) about her experience and how she makes meditation work for her.

An open, balanced Crown chakra brings peace, unity consciousness, clarity of thought and purpose aligned to intuition and enlightenment.  Listen, this is not easy and we are programmed to be attached to the material world, but to reach a higher consciousness, we must detach from possessions and relationships, they do not define us at a soul level.  Spirituality is not about religion…it is about YOU and your relationship to self and Source (or God, if you prefer).  I tend to not use either label, but choose to call it the Divine, the Universe, spirit…you get to choose what resonates with you.  I read somewhere that religion is for people who fear hell, spirituality for those who have been through hell.  Connecting with the non-physical, through your Crown chakra, you learn there is nothing to fear, fear is an illusion, programmed into us to keep us ignorant to the truth…we are all Divine, we are all Source energy here to have a human experience.

I have to tell y’all, this has been the hardest chakra to write about…I though it would be simple, but it touches on so many sensitive subjects, like God, religion, human versus soul…and I’m struggling a bit with explaining it all…oh fucking well, all I can do is try.  If you have any questions, or need guidance, in starting a meditation practice(or anything else), please comment, e-mail, reach out in any way…I’m always here to help anyone in any way I can.  I hope you all have a magical day!!

Peace Love and Light Beautiful Souls

AK

Divine Bad Ass Goddess

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The Unbecoming

I come to the realization that this journey we are on is not about becoming anything, but unbecoming.  Unbecoming who family, friends & society expects us to be, unbecoming who Ego tells us we are.  It’s about shedding all of the fears and insecurities, unbecoming adults and getting back to the open, joyful, vulnerability we had as children.  Children are underrated by adults, but the most perfect examples of how we, as adults, should be living our lives.  There were things I knew about myself as a child, I knew I was different, I knew I understood things about people that I had no justification for.  I knew that this made some people uncomfortable around me and others the complete opposite. I knew my “imaginary” friends weren’t imaginary.  The spirit world and Source have been communicating with me for as long as I can remember. Yet, I chose to ignore these gifts, to become what was expected of me. I’m not going to lie, I have some fear and insecurities in what I’ve discovered about who I am, but I am chosing not to live in the confines of fear, I am choosing to step into my truth and unleash my quirky, high vibin Goddess.  I am a divine feminine Twin Flame, an Empath healer and Psychic.
As much as I’ve shied away from talking about the Twin Flame partnership, it is an important part of who I am and why I’m here…to teach what I’ve learned on my journey. Twin Flames are the epitome of unconditional love & true partnership. They are the new blueprint of what a relationship could, and should be. But, to get to that you must find unconditional love of self first. For some twins it can take years before they are finally together.  Being a twin gives me a unique and awakened perspective on every type of relationship.
Empaths are very special people, if you have one in your life you are truly blessed. Everyone is capable of having empathy, but one cannot become an Empath. We are born the way we are and until we understand our gifts, the struggle is real.  We are able to physically feel the emotion of others. We are human lie detectors & know things through feeling energy & trusting our intuition. We are deeply affected by the energy of all living things. It’s so hard to explain to people that I literally, physically feel what their enrgy, at a soul level.  They can be talking from Ego and I am listening, but my intuition and ability to absorb energy/emotion tells me a much different story, the fear and insecurities behind the words being spoken.
Everyone has psychic abilities, even you. It’s a matter of being open to the possibility & allowing the abilities to develop. In my experience with kids, most are psychic, their abilities have not been shadowed by expecations and Ego. As we grow, we disconnect from these abilities. The Clairs are:
1. Clairvoyance the ability to see. This is not just visions, but can manifest in other ways.
2. Clairaudience the ability to hear. Ringing in the ears can be a sign of this.
3. Claircognizence the ability to know. You know when you just know something…that’s it working.
4. Clairsentinence the ability to feel.
I’ve attached a link with more information on these if you are interested. My clairs have developed rapidly through my awakening & daily meditation.  In fact, if I were to give one practice that will change you in ways you never imagined…will guide you in your unbecoming, it’s MEDITATE.  Of all the daily practices I’ve instilled this year, meditation has been the most powerful.  There is so much information already out there if you are interested in making it a part of your day.
We are born into this human existence, but our souls have never changed.  Experiences through lifetimes, create who we are at a soul level.  I have buried this my whole adult life believing that others wouldn’t understand (most don’t, they aren’t open to the possibilities), but fuck them anyways.  In this unbecoming I have found my soul’s purpose… using my unique combination of gifts, as an Empath healer and spiritual guide, to help others heal.  A healer cannot heal you (only you can do that), but holds space for you as you go through your healing process, to offer unconditional love, empathy & divine guidance on your journey to awaken your authentic, empowered inner goddess.

Peace, Love and Light Divine Goddesses

AK

Not Bat-Shit Crazy…Bat-Shit Passionate Empathetic Badass

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Want Better Relationships? Start With Yourself!

SelfI know. It sounds counterintuitive, doesn’t it? Don’t we all have that friend or family member (or maybe it’s you) who is always there, giving selflessly of her time and talents? I mean, everyone loves that woman, so don’t you want to be that woman, or just like her? Don’t you imagine that she has a ton of friends who love her right back and will drop everything to help her right back if necessary?  (I suppose this person could be a man, but yeah, not so often.) Often times, though, this friend is drained and not feeling great about her friends not reciprocating. She might just think that’s how things work, that friends just take advantage, and you either deal with it or have no friends. Does she think she doesn’t deserve friends who love her right back? Damn, I hope not.

Rlationships function best when there’s give and take. In most relationships I’ve witnessed, there’s an imbalance there. There’s generally one person who is the giver; the caretaker; the one who has it all handled. If the balance is pretty close, and both partners give almost as much as they take, the relationship is usually a good one. For example, if you like cleaning and your husband loves cooking, you care for one another that way. There’s nothing wrong with that. However, if you cook, clean, organize, work full time, do the majority of the child care tasks, and your partner works, comes home, throws his socks on the coffee table, and falls asleep with the remote in his hand, I hate to say it, you have an imbalance, and you shouldn’t take it.

I recently heard a quote that made more sense to me than just about anything I’ve ever heard or read. Ready? “You date at the level of your self esteem.” It’s so simple, but I look back at my life and see that it’s completely accurate. When I met my first husband, my self esteem was at an all time low. I was 20, and I realized that I had absolutely no idea what I wanted to do with my life. I was drinking WAY too much and that’s not good for anyone, but it was the only thing that didn’t make me feel empty. It gave me the social courage to meet new people. The problem is, when you make friends and the bond you share is binge drinking, those are not healthy relationships. I’d gotten out of a serious relationship with someone I thought was going to be “the one” about a year and a half prior to meeting my ex husband, and I dated some real losers in the meantime. Unfortunately, these losers and users seem to have a sixth sense for women who are down on themselves. They can somehow sense that you don’t think you deserve much. When your self esteem is at its lowest, you’re a magnet for the biggest turds on the market. My ex started out charming and kind, and slowly turned into a jealous ass who slowly isolated me from my friends. These men find ways to get you away from people who know and love you and have your best interest at heart. He has reasons, and while you’re being gaslit, his reasons *kind of* make sense. One friend smoked a lot of weed, and I was really, really not into that, so she wasn’t “good for me.” Another drank a lot and slept around, so I shouldn’t be around that, should I? Plus, he had a good group of friends. They were almost all really good people who had absolutely no idea what kind of an emotionally abusive ass he was in private. Still, I really couldn’t sack up and convince myself that I really, truly, deserved better than that.

Of course, looking back, would I change anything? I mean, he’s my son’s father. I’d never trade my kid for anything. Still, if everything happens for a reason, usually the reason is that you make bad decisions. I think if I’d had more self esteem, more belief that I had power, I could have changed that relationship for the better. It ultimately wouldn’t have worked out, but it might not have been the lonely, isolated, living hell it was, especially at the end. I’m actually glad it got so bad, because that lead to me GETTING OUT.

Look at your beautiful, talented, hilarious friend. She’s this strong, amazing woman and she’s dating one of these toxic turds. Why? She may not really grasp it, but she probably thinks Todd the Terrible Turd is the best she can do and she’s lucky to have him. She’s not dumb. She knows he’s not a very good dude, but when a woman has a low self esteem, sometimes being with Larry Loser seems better than being alone. She equates being alone with being lonely. I can tell you from experience that when you feel like shit about yourself, the last thing you want is time alone to think about it, so you stay with Alexander the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Dude and make excuses for him.

STOP THAT SHIT RIGHT NOW.

So wait, what am I saying here? If your husband is a lazy ass that fully takes advantage of you, should you just up and leave him, or kick his ass out? Probably not. If he’s a good man and he’s not an emotional, financial or physical abuser and your relationship is pretty good, besides your constant resentment brewing, take charge.

Find what makes YOU happy. Find what makes YOU feel good. I see a lot of this when I’m working on my fitness coaching business. I talk to women who are super disappointed with the their weight and their lack of energy. They want to be healthier, look better, and be able to chase after and play with their young children. Do you know the reason I hear most often? These are women who are sometimes in tears when they decide not to join my 30 day challenge groups. They want to do it really badly, but they say they DON’T. HAVE.TIME.

OK, single working mamas to little ones. I was one of you, and I KNOW that sometimes your days are packed from dawn til dusk and beyond and you’re probably not getting much sleep. I get that. If there’s a way that you can trade childcare even 1-3 times a week with another single or married parent, or if you have a friend who would be happy to spend a little time in kid-land, take that time. Fill your cup.

The majority of these women, though, are married to the fathers of their children. They tell me that they have no idea when they’d find 30 minutes, 4-6 times a week, to work out and work towards their goal. Even with all they’ve told me about their fitness goals, they don’t think that they can leave the kids with the husband for 30 minutes to work out in a different room of her home. I just wonder. Does Mr You have time to tinker on an old car that hasn’t run for 9 years? Does he golf or bowl or play hoops with his buddies? Does he run? Does he sit in a chair and watch TV for three hours a night?

Now think about this. Do you deserve 30 minutes to yourself, to work on yourself? Even if you’re not using it to work out, do you need that time to center yourself? To meditate? To go have a drink with your girlfriends?

Here’s another thing. If you see yourself in what I’m writing, and you can hear that man snoring on the couch while you read this a few paragraphs at a time in between loads of laundry and dishes, I have a hard truth for you. This man, this sleeping man who lives in your house, probably has NO FUCKING IDEA that you feel this way. I mean, he’s aware that you’re pissed that your jeans don’t fit, but he really, truly, doesn’t know how you’re feeling and what you need unless you TELL HIM. Turn off the distractions. Ask to talk to him for a minute when the kids are in bed or elsewhere. If you do all of the cleaning and all of the cooking and all of the other bullshit on autopilot, all but the very best of men who are vying for sainthood will LET YOU. You bet your ass they’re going to keep that status quo. After all, it works for him. If he’s a good man, he wants to know. He wants a happy wife, but homeboy has no freaking clue how to make that happen.

Decide. It’s up to you. Decide that you’re worth it. Decide that your kids don’t need Pinterest lives every day. Your Elf on a Shelf doesn’t need an elaborate set up every day. If that brings you joy, then great. But if these things are draining you, take back your power! Tell that man that you’re feeling tired and down, and that you need time for YOURSELF every day. For some reason, over the course of your life, you’ve decided that you don’t deserve it. You don’t deserve self care? I think you do. I think we all do. For me, that means I MUST have time home alone, just me and the dogs, for several hours at least twice a week. I need to move my body. The JOY that pumps through my bloodstream with that release of endorphins can’t be replaced by organizing someone else’s underwear drawer or vacuuming under the feet of a grown ass man. The clarity of mind I have when I’m eating clean, healthy foods 90% of the time can’t be replaced by hate-eating leftover macaroni and cheese and chicken nuggets my kid didn’t finish.

So this is my purpose; my manifesto.

I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.

I DESERVE TO TAKE TIME FOR MYSELF.

I DESERVE A PARTNER WHO GIVES AS MUCH AS HE TAKES.

I DESERVE TO FEEL AMAZING.

I DESERVE TO FEEL STRONG.

I DESERVE TO BE HEALTHY.

I DESERVE SELF CARE.

I LOVE MYSELF.

I DESERVE JOY.

I DESERVE STRONG, CARING FRIENDSHIPS.

I DESERVE ABUNDANCE.

I DESERVE TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF SO I CAN TAKE CARE OF MY FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND CLIENTS AT THE HIGHEST POSSIBLE LEVEL.

CALL ME SELFISH. I’LL WEAR THAT BADGE WITH PRIDE.

And guess what? YOU DESERVE ALL OF THAT TOO. Not when your kids are grown. Not when your career is established. Not at some arbitrary point in the future. There will always be demands on your time, on your energy, on your body. There’s never a magical time when your world stops and you can do all the things you always wanted to do. Do it now. Take back your self esteem and power and realize YOU DESERVE THIS.

I can’t decide what that thing is for you that builds you up, recharges your battery, and makes you feel amazing about yourself and your life, but whatever it is, don’t delay. When you’re a happier human, you’re a happier mom, a joyful wife, a  caring friend, an energetic employer or  employee.

Love, power, and light,

-Selfish Mitch

 

 

 

Let Shift Happen

This year has been an incredible, sometimes painful, transformation of self.  I admit I have spent my adult life ignoring the signs the universe was giving me, I feel a lot of us have.  For me, there was no option…do you ever feel like the same shit keeps happening over and over?  The same shitty people in your life, just different faces?  I sure did.  That was definitely my thinking at the beginning of 2017.  The other big question I kept asking myself was…Why me? Why did all this shit keep happening to me?  The first question would be answered in April, when I was guided to Abraham Hicks & the Laws of Attraction.

After listening to Abraham a few times, it hit me…everything is energy.  I have to admit, being raised a Catholic, this was a huge belief system shock.  Even as a child, religion did not make sense to me, I never felt connected with it.  Don’t get me wrong, there are beautiful aspects to all religions, but I’ve always felt Love is the true religion and we don’t need any of the rules created by religious organizations.  The combination of Science & Spirituality really, deeply resonated with me.  For the first time in my life, the Universe began to make sense.  So…The same shitty events with the same shitty people were my fault.  My energy was attracting the shit! By letting ego take the driver’s seat of my life, by living in the confines of fear & insecurity, how I felt about myself was manifesting externally.  Holy shit!!  This BS needed to change.  However, change is NOT easy, looking honestly at oneself is fucking tough and I was deeply saddened by what I saw.   I understood in that moment that if I wanted the life of my dreams, I had to shift my thinking…shift from Ego to Soul.

Since then, the shift from Ego to Soul has been profound. Ego is the mask we use to hide our fears and insecurities.  Ego not only blocks us from recieving all the abundance we deserve, it stops us from being our true selves.  Dissolving ego takes patience and practice. We have been so deeply programmed, by people & society, to let Ego run our lives we don’t even know it’s happening.  I love this graphic of Ego vs. Soul based thinking….

Be attached with the detached; EGO is not your identity.

Any of that sound familiar?  I began to accept the fact that I had been living from Ego (with a little soul here and there) my entire adult life and I was sick and fucking tired of it.  I began to instill daily practices that helped me shift…gratitude, self affirmations, focused breathing, reading & studying chakras and all things spiritual,  meditation, yoga and journaling.  I did NOT do these all at once (posts on each one are upcoming), they were gradual, but each profound in shifting perspective, in rediscovering my authentic goddess.

We live in an Ego based society, clearly…look at who represents us all as Americans (definitely more on that another day).  I can feel the collective energy wanting change, but we must understand that we cannot change others. The changes we seek must forst come within.  Those changes can only come from healing ourselves.  As our energy rises, the energy around us will rise as well.  That’s how vibrations work, my loves.  It is why we must focus on self…self-healing, self-care that leads to unconditional love of self.  We must see that every one of us is a perfect soul having an imperfect human experience.  As woman, we must rise into our goddess power to affect the change we want to see.

Peace, Love & Light Beautiful Souls

AK

Goddess Unleashed

P.S.  This is your daily reminder that YOU ARE A FUCKING GODDESS…OWN THAT SHIT!!

One Giant Leap of Faith

I have always known I was here to be a teacher.  Growing up in the 80’s, in a strict Catholic family, lead me to one career choice…teaching.  I come from a family of teachers (on both sides): it is a noble profession. Other avenues of teaching were never encouraged, nor discussed. I was conditioned to believe that if I went to college, got my degree & became a teacher, I would live ” The American Dream”.  What a crock of shit that turned out to be.

This will not be a long drawn out story of my 15 years in the 5th largest school district, teaching at-risk kids.  The stories I could tell…maybe I’ll write a book someday.  I can tell you that I loved EVERY. FUCKING. MINUTE. with my kids.  They would tell you I was an awesome teacher, they are kind & love unconditionally.  My gift, as a teacher, was the connections, the relationships I built with each & every student that sat in my classroom.  It is the Empath in me.  Kids see through the bullshit, they feel who someone truly is.  They could feel the unconditional love, the empathy, understanding and compassion I felt for them.  In my room, my kids were not letters, not test scores…they were the beautiful, imperfect beings that they are(as I write my heart chakra is lit up like a Christmas tree).  Once my kid, always my kid.

Anyways, there were many things, of course, that I did not like & did not understand…what relevance they had to teaching kids.  But, like all good slaves, I did what I was told, telling myself it was for the kids.  I gave and I gave, I poured my heart & soul into being the best teacher I could be (the old me was a bit of a perfectionist).  At my last school, I became a leader in the building, chairing numerous committees, implementing & running professional development for teachers, you name it, I did it…the only thing I got paid for was tutoring, which I did on top of the aforementioned jobs.  I went into teaching for kids & the belief that I would have “The American Dream”.  For 15 years I was there for the kids, all the while, taking time away from my own children, friends & family, and struggling to pay the bills.  This was not the dream I was sold.

Last school year was a tough one for me.  I was teaching and going through deep personal shit at the same time.  When I came back from break in January, I was feeling better, hopeful, starting to heal.  By April, the awakening had begun.  I had been guided to the words Twin Flame and things about myself and personal relationships suddenly came to light.  I was excited and happy…for the first time in years I felt free, not walking on eggshells.  But, things started to shift at work.  We tested my 5th graders for 6 weeks straight, I’m not even shitting you…6 fucking weeks my babies had to sit in a lab, day after day taking a bullshit test.  I lost it one day, I went home and cried like I hadn’t in years.  Crying for them, crying for me, crying for the whole fucked up system.  I didn’t know what to do.  Then the Universe stepped in, there was a problem renewing my license, I wouldn’t be able to do it fast enough & the district was going to fire me…how’s that for appreciation of 15 years of service…so I gave them the big fuck you & resigned. The thing about it, a year before and I would have straight up had a meltdown, total anxiety attack.  But this year, I walked away with a smile on my face, knowing in my heart I was doing the right thing.  However, I had not put total faith in myself & the universe…I took a job at a charter school within 4 days.

I made a commitment this summer to focus on myself, use the break to really do some soul work.  In the Spring, I had started doing small, daily practices & they were instrumental in allowing the shifts for awakening to happen.   At end of June, I began meditating and shortly after added yoga to my daily practices.  I will get into how I made them daily practices in upcoming posts.  These 2 changes to my daily life, changed it in ways I never thought possible.  My spiritual awakening began accelerating at rates that were quite difficult for me to handle.  As I opened to all that was possible, my psychic abilities (we all have them) & the way I feel things as an Empath were at an all time high.  They still are, but I’m learning how they work, how I work.  I began seeing through the illusions, the outdated systems that no longer serve us.

So, with all this going on I start teaching a new grade, at a new school, in a new, not better system… talk about breaking out of comfort zones…I couldn’t handle it.  I absolutely hated being in that school.  I coudln’t sleep.  I was crying every morning at the thought of having to go there to teach.  In this new situation was the sudden awakening to how outdated our education systems are (along with all of our other government systems).  The realization that it does nothing in the best interest of kids , nor teachers…the 2 most important beings in a school.  I will rant about the education system another day, when I’m in my spiritual anarchist mood.  The hardest realization was that I was a part of it. I was a hypocrite, a slave to an outdated system, standing there teaching kids shit I know has no bearing on them being successful and I was tired of the bullshit…tired of being asked to be a robot, when I am a goddamn fucking unicorn! So, I resigned, with no plan other than to follow my heart & divine guidance to teach in a different way, use my gifts to help others heal.

One giant leap of faith taken.  I am so grateful you are on this journey with me.

Peace, Love & Light Beautiful Souls

AK

One Brave Bitch

P.S.  This is your reminder that YOU are a fucking goddess!! Be brave, shine YOUR light, stand in YOUR power, my divine sisters.