Sex, Intimacy and Dare I say…the Feels

Oh fuuuuuck…the big 3 of every relationship (we’ll talk about communication with the throat chakra…although, you’re probably starting to get that it’s all fucking connected).  The Sacral Chakra is located just below your belly button, is orange in color and gives us information in regards to our emotions, sexuality, and creativity.  I’ve read many times, that it is a frequently blocked chakra for women and it makes total sense, but through my journey as a Twin Flame, I can tell you it’s an off balanced chakra for men, as well.

A huge part of spiritual awakening, is healing and healing is all I have been focused on for the past year…I admit, I was carrying a ton of shit and when I began this journey to self, I had no fucking clue just how much shit there was.  Our journey as souls, having a human experience isn’t a straight path and as it spirals lessons and healing that have not occurred will continue to come back.  We also bring into each life the shit from our past lives and our ancestors.  This is where I am in my journey, past life shit and how it connects to the present.  A lot of my guidance, is telling me that it is imperative to heal these ancient wounds in order to move fully into the future, so that’s where I’ve been focusing, always following my intuition and Divine team of ascended masters, spirit guides and angels.

So, the Sacral chakra…as feminine energy in a woman’s body, there is little doubt that this little sucker needs to be attuned frequently.  When the sacral chakra is blocked feelings of shame, guilt, lack/fear of intimacy and low sex drive/self esteem/worthlessness take over.  These are feelings I’ve felt my entire fucking life, sexual abuse, harassment and relationships with emotionally constipated/narcissistic men have been common patterns in my life.  Shit, not only with men, but women, as well.  Growing up, my mother made me feel shamed and guilt on a daily basis and I continued to carry these feelings into adulthood. I now understand that these feelings were not my own to carry, they belong to the people who projected them onto me.  This is common with Empaths, we are magnets for the hurt and when not aware of how we filter emotional energy, we absorb.  Not to say that I’m completely innocent here…I’m not perfect and have had my own guilt & shame over choices I’ve made, including my sexuality and inability, at times, to be vulnerable in my emotions, out of fear of hurting others.  Some of these feelings have been put there by our fucked up patriarchal society, that dismisses the importance of our emotional intelligence.  Simple things are society has been programmed to believe, like the word homewrecker.

home·wreck·er
ˈhōmˌrekər/
noun

informal
  1. a person who is blamed for the breakup of a marriage or family, especially due to having engaged in an affair with one member of a couple.
    “she was accused of being a homewrecker”

This is the first definition that pops up in Google…I’m okay with the fact that it says person in the definition, but look at the example sentence…have you EVER FUCKING heard anyone call a man a homewrecker?  Just this simple word BLAMES women for ending a relationship…I call BULL FUCKING SHIT.  I know this is a very small example, but you all can think of a million more surrounding us everyday.  Here’s the thing though, this patriarchal programming hasn’t helped men either.

I can’t think of 1 man I know that is emotionally mature, who is capable of being vulnerable and openly communicating their feelings.  I don’t blame them though, I blame the systems, the programming that has us all fucked up.  There is a gross invalidation of feelings that begins at birth with our boys.  As a mother of 2 boys (15 and 4), I have experienced this and it breaks my fucking heart.  As a teacher, I have seen it in boys as young as 5.  How many time have you heard/seen someone tell a little boy to “Man up”, “Don’t be a Pussy, Crybaby, or the best…little girl”?  These common statements teach boys 2 things:  1.  Your feelings aren’t important and 2. Girls, because we are emotional energy, are weaker, lesser somehow (ladies, we are born feeling worthless).  In my journey, I have come to learn the importance of Equanimity:  the balance of mind, body and spirit…the balance of thought, action AND FEELINGS…as within, so without, right?  We must start understanding and teaching that the thoughts that drive the action begin with…yup, going to say it…YOUR FUCKING FEELINGS…when they are not aligned is when shit starts to go downhill.

Everything is about balance and chakras can be overactive, as well.  When that happens, you will find someone who is over-emotional (old Me for sure), fixated on sex, manipulative and/or unable to relax, to flow and just enjoy life at every moment (I’ll own this one as well).  I was always called too sensitive, or overly-emotional and I was very much, as an adult, someone who had a hard time relaxing, being present.  Mindfulness practices to be present were one of the first things I began working on over a year ago.  Simple things, like just stopping & breathing, giving thanks for little things, like a hot shower.  At first, I had to work at reminding myself to do this.  Now, it’s automatic.  The practices I’ve talked about (meditation, yoga, etc.) have also taught me I am not my emotions and although every emotion is valid, I no longer attach myself to them.  I acknowledge, accept and release.  I no longer am reactive when certain emotions, that used to be triggers, come up and I am able to see when others are projecting their emotions.  Pretty powerful shit, y’all.  I have also come to realize how fucking sacred my sexuality is.  I have my Twin to thank for that.  It is also sacred, and this have fucking frightened the shot out of the patriarchy since the beginning,because, we as women, are the ONLY ones who can connect the Spirit world with the Physical world, through the ability to give birth.  With great power comes great responsibility, thanks Spidey…my beautiful Divine sisters, it is up to us to find our balance within, to bring forth the balance we so desperately want to see in the world.

As always, I look forward to questions, comments and emails about any of this stuff I am writing about, as well as, Tarot reading/healing sessions.  I will post chakra information on our FB page, Oh My Goddess, and hope you will check it out, like and follow.

Peace, Love and Light

AK

P.S.  The colors of each chakra are important to note.  You can do lots of little things to bring balance to chakra by eating foods, wearing clothes, etc. of the color associated with each chakra.

P.P.S  Sacral chakra affirmations can begin with “I feel…” and “I create…”

 

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WTF is a Chakra?

Greetings beautiful souls!  As promised (look at me go), I’m going to do a series on chakras.  I’ll talk today about what they hell they are and a little about each one.  Then, post a more in depth blog on 1 (or 2), at a time.  Chakra work is one of my favorite practices and I love working with clients on these beautiful little energy centers.  Opening and working with my chakras has been one of the most transformational practices…absolutely life changing and it goes hand in hand with meditation, yoga and all things spiritual, plus my specialty…healing.

So, what the fuck are they?  Chakras are energy centers located from the base of your spine (Root Chakra) to the top of your head (Crown Chakra).  Chakra’s are the control centers, for our balance in our emotional, physical, mental & spiritual well-being.  They tell us where fears and insecurities are holding us back from living our most fulfilled lives, our soul driven lives.  Working daily with these 7 (with humans evolving to higher consciousness, some now recognize 12, but I’ll focus only on 7, for now) powerful, energy cylinders have helped me heal and transform in ways I never fucking thought could happen.  Don’t get me wrong, it’s not always sunshine and rainbows.  When you can identify the blockages, you then have to face those shadows…which, let’s be honest, most don’t want to do.  It’s much easier, safer to be on auto-pilot then putting the work into being healthy, healed & whole.  For me, there really hasn’t been an option, sure I have free will…but a spiritual awakening a fucking rug yanking experience and putting practices like the ones I’ve mentioned into your day make it far less painful.  But, like with all practice, it gets easier and easier.

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The 7 Chakras (a very brief description):

1.  The Root Chakra This beautiful, red chakra is located at the base of your spine.  It influences safety, security & stability.  When blocked you may feel:  lower back pain, physically tired, depressed, angry, unable to sleep(insomnia) and/or self esteem issues.

2.  The Sacral Chakra:  This sexy (influences sexual desire), orange chakra is located just below your belly button.  It influences creativity, emotional identity, sexuality and happiness. When blocked you may feel:  pelvic pain, low sex drive, urinary/digestive problems, emotionally irritable and/or intimacy issues.

***Just a note:  These 2 chakras are typically where women have the most blockages…makes sense given our history of abuse and disempowerment.***

3.  The Solar Plexus Chakra:  The powerful, yellow chakra is located just above the belly button.  It influences your will, self confidence and ego. When blocked you may feel:  physical stomach pains, indigestion, arthritis, emotionally you may feel anxiety, depression related to low self esteem issues and/or fear of rejection.

4.  The Heart Chakra:  This important center chakra is green and I’m sure you’ve figured it out…located in the center of your chest.  It influences trust, love and compassion.  When blocked you may feel:  heart conditions, asthma, hopelessness, sadness, difficulties giving/receiving love and/or moodiness.

5.  The Throat Chakra:  This brilliant, turquoise chakra is located at the center of your throat.  It influences truthfulness, communication, self-knowledge/expression and intuition.  When blocked you may feel:  sore/dry, scratchy throat, thyroid dysfunctions, tooth/gum problems, hearing problems, indecision, lack of creativity and/or mood swings.

6. The Third Eye Chakra:  This intuitive, indigo chakra is located between your eyebrows, in the center of your forehead.  It influences intelligence, self-realization, imagination and inspiration.  When blocked you may feel:  headaches, sleep problems, nightmares, learning disabilities, lack of concentration, impaired judgement and/or confusion.

7.  The Crown Chakra:  vital, violet chakra is located at the top of your head.  It influences your spirituality, faith and connection to the Divine (Source, God, Spirit…whatever resonates with you).  When blocked you may feel:  physical exhaustion, sensitivity to light and sound, aimless, apathetic, lack of spiritual connection and/or materialistic.

So there’s the basics…but there’s so much more to tell you about each one.  I have had and cleared blockages in each and every one throughout the past year.  For feminines, the lower chakras (1-3) have the most blockages and I have definitely had to do the most healing there.  No fucking surprise that the opposite is true for masculine’s.

Chakra work has helped my transformation in such profound ways.  It has turned being an Empath from a curse to a blessing, teaching me the power I hold and how I read the energy of others. It has increased my physical, emotional, mental and spiritual awareness that still blow my fucking mind sometimes.  It has opened ALL of my psychic abilities to a place I never imagined I’d be and helps me understand the information I am receiving through these abilities.  I feel and can identify blockages in others…sometimes it’s so intense, especially with those I have a deep soul connection with.  They don’t even have to be near me and I can feel them.  I am now able to communicate telepathically with my Twin Flame and that shit is fucking crazy.

Chakra work is intense, but has the fucking power to help you transform into the Divine being you are meant to be…a motherfucking goddess (or god) living her most fulfilled life.  While reading this, if something resonates, or you feel twinges/pain in any of these areas….your picking up where blockages are.  Hit me up if you have questions, would like to do a chakra reading.  Selfish Mitch had graciously volunteered to do one on the YouTube channel for you all to see how it works…hopefully I’ll see her beautiful face soon so we can do just that.

Peace, Love and Light to Each and Every One of You

AK

Crystal lovin’, chakra balancin’, high vibin’ spiritual ass G

 

P.S.  I’ll post some other info about chakras on the FB page Oh My Goddess…check it out!

Sticks and Stones

“Sitcks and stones will break your bones, but words will never hurt you”…at least I think that’s how it goes, right?  I call bullshit, total fucking bullshit.  Words are the reason I have been inconsistent at best with blogging, because I know all too well how absolutely powerful the spoken/written word is.  As someone who understands that I am the creator of my reality and my emotions, thoughts and words create that reality, I always want to choose my words carefully.  Always using focused intention, coming from a place of unconditional love and emapthy.  As an Empath, empathy is kind of my gig and as an Empath I have known and can feel the emotions behind words.  It’s not the words themselves, but the emotion/intention behind them.

I have spent the majority of my life walking on eggshells, afraid my words may set off the narcissists I found myself surrounded by.  I have been abused mentally, physically and emotionally throughout most of my life.  Although, no form of abuse is acceptable, nor worse than the other.  For me, the physical abuse was much easier to heal than the others, it was the words, the emotion behind them, that caused the deepest wounds.  I am at a place of peace and acceptance with the people and events in my life that caused the pain.  I now understand 1.  that everything happens for a reason and 2.  that there is no good, or bad…just blessings and lessons.  If there is 1 thing I’ve learned from these people, it is who I don’t want to be and I appreciate that.

As a mother of 3 amazing kiddos, I have become very aware of how I speak to them and admit that was not always so.  I’m a spiritual being having a human experience, but I am human and did not always have the perspective I do now.  It’s been interesting as my 2 older children are 19 & 15, the youngest is 4.  I can recall so many things I said to the bigs when they were younger that I would never say now.  As a child, the words of my mother and peers hurt me in ways I have just come to understand at the deepest levels.  Words that we hear most parents say because we have been conditioned to believe words can’t hurt us.  Things like:  “I don’t care.”  “Stop being such a baby.”  “Get over it.”  you get the idea and I am certain you are hearing a certain voice as you read.  I’ve said these things, to my children, to my students, to myself.  I forgive myself for what I did not know, nor understand.  We are all deeply programmed to behave this way and it is something that must change.  Especially for masculine’s…who are so deeply programmed to believe their emotional body is not important.  It is the root cause of most of the fucked up shit (mass shootings, separating children from their mothers, etc.) happening in American society.  We must stop invalidating emotions, if we are to evolve, as humans this shit’s got to stop.

Now, the first thing I ask my kids,  is are you happy?  Does this make your heart happy?  I have no expectations (the root of so much heartache) of who, or what my children are, or will become.  The most important things to me are their happiness and that they are kind to themselves and others.  My words to them are the foundation of this.  Lucas (15) and Jackson (4) are my boys and I will not invalidate their feelings.  Last year, Luke’s dad texted me saying what a baby he was…I was so fucking livid.  My immediate response was please do not invalidate his feelings.  The response, don’t tell me what to do.  This patriarchal, ego based society has existed for 5,000 years and where the fuck has it gotten us?  This teaching that emotions are not valid has led to the dis-empowerment of the feminine, because we are emotions first (typically).  We are seen as lesser because we need to express our emotions.  Emotions, we are taught, are a sign of weakness.  Let me just say this,  it takes one strong ass motherfucker to be open and vulnerable, to lay all of your feelings out on the table.  This will be something I touch upon time and time again.

My last thought on words, because I know my use of profanity is offensive to some…I give 0 fucks if people are offended by my word choice.  They can save your judgments for someone who will buy into it, I won’t.   As long as my words continue to come from love and light, used to illuminate darkness, I’m good.  In fact, I’m better than good…I’m motherfucking golden.

Peace, Love and Light Y’all

AK

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